There is one specific thing that I've been thinking about lately. It's about choosing what you want and then burning your boats. I'm going to give you more details about that so you can be very successful. There are a lot of choices in life, and you can choose whatever you want to do. Whether it be the partner that you choose or the career you want or the car you buy or fitness program you are in. There are a lot of choices to be made and some get distracted because they want it all but at the same time, they don't know what they want. So, it can be frustrating.
It's very important that you choose what you want, and once you choose, burn your boats down...
Let's use careers as an example. Let's say you want to be a dentist and you take a couple of courses. Then change your mind and you want to be a mechanic and you try that out for a while. But, then you decide you want to be a psychologist and you continue jumping from one place to another and even though you have learned a lot, you will never be successful in one area because you haven't focused on one thing, to get really good at it. You won’t find somebody who is successful who is trying to do everything because they won’t focus on one thing.
As an example, if you need shoulder surgery you are not going to choose a doctor that is good at everything. You would choose a specialist in that field. There are specialists that deal only with cardiovascular health, other specialists that help people with joints and joint pain or a dentist if you need dental work done. When you are looking for a specialist, you look for someone very knowledgeable that has a great reputation and an excellent success rate in his field. He specializes. It’s the same with your career; you need to choose one and then put your energy, heart and focus into it. If you want to be a personal trainer, a psychologist, a mechanic, or create websites, if you want to be a nurse, a dentist or go into politics, there are many careers to choose from, you need to choose one and then do your best.
You have to think about the pros and cons of any career you choose...
When you meet with the negative things in the career you have chosen you need to live with them and overcome them and embrace all the positive things about your career as well. If you choose to have a partner in life, commit to it. As you have probably noticed there is a lot of divorce out there and one of the reasons is because people are not committed. They are jumping from one relationship to the other, over and over again. Can you imagine if you were married four, five or six times? Many times, you may leave your heart with a past partner. Maybe there are children from the other marriages. So, there are kids and families all over the place. You can't be everywhere all the time. I’m not saying you shouldn’t try, but it's extremely challenging.
I'm not saying that you should be with an abusive person or with someone who doesn't love you. For you to stay in a relationship like that it is just a sacrifice if they are not committed.
Many people are afraid, so they go from one partner to the other…
They think that the grass is greener on the other side. But if you commit to your partner, give it 100% and even if it doesn’t succeed, you know that you did your best. When you do that, you can feel good about yourself. Focus on one person instead of trying to focus on many when choosing a partner. The same goes in choosing one career or choosing a car. You are never going to be happy if you buy a car and later, when you get used to your car, you are focusing on another car.
The other car is faster, has more room and leather seats and yours maybe does not have those qualities, but it has others. When you start comparing, you probably won’t be happy for long and will want to move on to another car. Do you know how much money people spend on trading cars every year or every two years? They could have saved and invested that money and money equals freedom.
The same happens with your fitness program...
If your program is great, don’t jump around looking for something that delivers faster results. If you start trying all different fads, diets, apparatus, surgeries, and other things, you are never going to see real results. You need to commit to your program and be all in.
You need to choose one thing and find all the positive things about it. So, why do I tell you to choose one thing? I don't know if you heard this story, but I'm going to tell you about Hernan Cortez who took his troops to an Mexico and once they were in Mexico he told his troops, “Burn all the boats down; we are either going to win this war or we are going to die tonight.” Choose one thing and burn your boats down.
Go all in and don't look back. Focus on the things you have in the present whether it be the partner you choose, your career, your car, your fitness program, whatever it is, focus on it and give yourself the opportunity to do your best and you will see how successful and happy you can be by making the choice to commit. Choose one thing, burn your boats down and put all your heart, energy and focus into it.