When I’m having a conversation with someone, I’m trying to understand what this person is saying, so I can relate to her. When I’m trying to understand the past, present or anything the person is telling me, it's normal to go back and think about the things that I know so I can relate to what the person is saying. Here's a great example, If I tell you that I have a car and I crashed my car. How I’m going to fix it or whatever I need to do to it. The first thing you do is start to think about your own car or you think about cars you have had in the past. It’s like a point of reference, something we have in common. For example, if you are an engineer you may be thinking about that new car, new project that you are working on, we refer to all those memories that we have stored up to go back and relate to what people are trying to tell us.
Based on that, let me tell you a little bit about myself. Back in the past, I was a completely different person. I was on the wrong path and I was broke, out of shape and everything I was doing wasn't giving me what I wanted in life. My life was a mess and I’m telling you this because I want you to understand that I've been where others have been, living paycheck to paycheck, bad relationships, blaming the other person for the breakup.
One day one of my friends told me that my arm looked like a big sausage. The reason why was because I was lifting weights, but my body was not toned. I wasn't doing it the right way. I was following a lot of myths. I studied and continue to study a lot about how people get results and succeed in life. I specialize in weight loss, that's what I do. I help people to lose weight. Losing weight is not something difficult, anybody can lose weight. They don't need to, but they hire me for a reason. Maybe, they need accountability, they need to understand the difference between myths and correct information. Some are confused, some are not motivated. There are a lot of reasons why people hire me and that's the reason why I have a career.
I think losing weight and getting your body in shape is very simple...
All you have to do is eat healthy and exercise. But then, why can't you get there? Why is it so difficult? It has to do with your emotions and feelings, when those emotions are not clear in your head, it's difficult to get there and that happened to me. I didn't have a goal; I didn't know what I was doing. I didn't know why I was so unhappy.
As soon as I started understanding myself and got rid of the myths in my head, I started applying good concepts in my life and it started changing. I noticed that all the successful people who are happy follow the same pattern and I want you to know that when I tell you my experience, the things that I’m referring to are experiences that many people go through, I just want you to know that I've been in your shoes. I've been in many people's shoes; I know what has worked for me and has worked for many other people and I know it can work for you.
So once I got clear in my head and understood why I was living, I started to change in every single area of my life. I started applying those concepts in my life and it got easier.
So this article is going to help you to understand why you haven't achieved that weight loss…
Let’s use an example. Let's say that I have a very successful business and I want to transfer it to you. If you don't have the skills or the knowledge, if you don't have the passion, if you don't know the system or have the motivation to run the business, do you think that business is going to succeed?
Let's say you have a partner that is perfect for you. This partner is loyal, cares about you and loves you, is patient and has all these good qualities. However, you don't have those same good qualities. You are struggling in life, barely making it. You're very angry and you drink too much, you're addicted to drugs or you have a habit of spending money you don’t have. How long do you think your relationship is going to last with that partner? Let's say you find somebody just like yourself. You both have the same bad habits. How long do you think your relationship is going to last and how happy will you be in that relationship?
I remember back in the past, I found a good woman. She understood me; she was loyal and easy to live with. The problem was that I was expecting this woman to be this great person, but I wasn't a great person. One of the reasons why my past relationships failed was because I was hoping that people would meet my needs and desires, but I wasn't willing to meet theirs. Now it’s different, people don’t have to meet my needs because it's not about that. It's about me becoming a better person and raising my standards and then giving to others and helping them to understand that because I value myself and have become a better person, they can trust that I will give instead of trying to take.
The same thing happens with money. If you are spending money you don’t have, living paycheck to paycheck and then let's say you win $100,000 in the lottery. What do you think would be easier, double that money and make a profit or spend it? The problem is that if you haven't become the kind of person that invests and grows their money, you won’t be the person that can run a business or keep that relationship or the kind of person to lose that weight and keep it off. So many people lose 20 pounds, even 30 pounds or more. And then they forget about the things they have done to get them where they are, and they go back to the bad habits they had before and end up gaining that weight back.
That means they haven't become the person they need to become to achieve that weight loss and keep it off forever…
So to have a nice body and to have a fit body, to be financially free, to have a great relationship, to have a successful business, to be a smart person, knowledgeable to be valuable in the world, to have a nice house, to be able to run a nonprofit and help animals, to be able to do anything that you want to do, you need to become the person who develops all those habits to get where you want to go. If your plan is to lose 30 pounds. It's very simple. Become that person that is going to lose those 30 pounds and keep it off forever. It's not about just changing your life for one week, for two or three weeks. Think about the people who are in shape all the time, you don't see these people just sitting on the couch eating everything.
I’m not talking about people who are skinny, that do whatever they want and eat all the wrong food. That doesn't mean they're in shape, just because they're skinny. They might have a small frame body, but they still have a high percentage of body fat. I'm talking about the people who really exercise and have a nice toned body; you see them running, lifting weights; you see them making great choices in the food they buy. They never tell you they are going on a diet. That’s their lifestyle, how they eat, how they shop. They have done it that way for years. They don't do it for a few weeks. It's their lifestyle; they lift weights at least three times a week. They are that person that loses those 30 pounds and keeps it off and has that fit body.
If you become the person you want to be, that's when you become self-confident...
I have a lot of people who hire me because they don't feel confident. It’s true, our beliefs and our habits help make the body that we have. If we practice bad habits, we won't feel confident with our body. So when you start developing all those good habits and you start moving forward, you will achieve what you set out to do. You become confident because you know you can do it. You know you are strong, nothing can defeat you. You become the person who is not afraid if success happens in your life because you are ready for it. The next thing you know you have what it takes to be successful and you stay on course, knowing that your success depends on that.
People will see that you are a genuine person, that you really care, that you're not just going through the motions. When you become that person, you will have more confidence and peace of mind that you're doing the right things. Once you keep those habits for life, that’s when success happens. We all have free choice; we can do whatever we like. But I would always encourage you to stay true to yourself. If you want to lose those 30 pounds and keep it off, become that person; if you want a great relationship, become that person; if you want to be financially free, become that person and if you want to be promoted on your job, become that person.
Remember nothing will happen just by wishing for it. You need to become that person. Once you become the person you want to be, everything is going to become easier. I remember in my past I wasn't becoming a better person because I was mentally lazy. I had some good virtues, but they weren't enough because I was not motivated. I wanted things to change in my life, but I wanted things to change magically. So,I decided that I was going to work hard everyday maintaining good habits in becoming a better person and it's working for me and I know it's going to work for you.
Lose 30 pounds...
So to lose 30 pounds find the right habits you need to practice for life.